Money Bondage: When Money Turns into Sexual Pleasure

The Pig Man and the Dominant Woman, or Money for Insults: This is the principle of “money slavery.” In a time of extreme liberalism, this was not surprising. But how does this financial arrangement work in a BDSM environment?

In the crowded shopping center in the La Défense district of Paris, Marc (All names have been changed) She spends the afternoon with Sandra, a very beautiful young woman. She buys this, she buys that, handbag, then jeans, there, they are really good, right?, Like this pair of shoes by the way, come on, hop! .

Mark remained almost silent, his eyes lowered. Big bags of young women’s purchases are piling up, almost equal to minimum wage. He raised her a bit like someone with his cross, with a resignation: He doesn’t really have the right to look at Sandra, even if she’s shopping with his bank card. Mark, who wore his 31st shoe for the occasion, feels a little offended. He loves it: A day of shopping has never seemed so fun.

A strong sign of submission

Mark is the so-called “Slavic money”. These men who became the financial slaves of “Money Mistresses” (Financial Mistresses), Experience sexual arousal and fulfillment. Because giving money to the object of their desire without getting anything, or very little, in return would be a strong sign of submission – and submission, and humiliation, these are the drivers of BDSM amateur sexuality.

They are called ‘pigeons’, ‘disciples’, ‘servants’, even ‘little bitches’, by those who have become ‘domins’, ‘princesses’ or even ‘queens’, spending lavishly for their own pleasure…and out of the door first for them. Bank transfers or PayPal, cash transfers directly near an ATM or buying gifts in a pre-set wish list, all means are useful for making “offers” to their mistress.

“Come on bitches, we’re taking out the credit card.”

Social networks, and more broadly the Internet, have contributed to the development of this phenomenon, particularly in the United States. There are countless Facebook groups dedicated to this issue – you can for example go on a “Weak pigeons for moneymiss” walk – full of profiles and aliases. Ditto on the Instagram side or obscure forums: “Come on bitches, we’re taking out the credit card.”For example, written on one of them, in lyrical impetus, the so-called Princess Sublimissime.

Mark, we met him on Twitter. 29 years old, a well-paying job in Ile-de-France, an attraction for the SM environment. “At first, I was interested in male dominance and female subordination. Then I was curious to see the opposite. I signed up for a cam site about a year and a half ago. That’s when I met the person who changed my view of things.”

“I am pleased to be humiliated by my lady.”

Domina became “submissive” to Sandra, the “professional” who allegedly He gave meaning to (ha) life”. For the first time in a long time, I enjoyed a woman other than intercourse. I am happy to be humiliated by my lady.”

In addition to gifts from time to time, he gives her part of his salary, about 400 euros per month: “It’s very hard to explain, but the fact of spoiling my mistresses, and being able to please them – at least on my little level – when it doesn’t even excite me in life, is so exciting!”

He still has the privilege, as a believer among believers, to obtain from time to time the right to Skype sessions or meetings on rare occasions. But he is not the only one Abdul Mal From this 26-year-old woman with long brown hair, also residing in the Paris region, who says she has had “He was always dominant with men”.

“Receive money and gifts from little minions, who can refuse?”

She works side by side but is able to earn an average of €800 per month thanks to the different donors who didn’t He does not give anything in return except in exceptional cases.she thinks “joyful” verb ‘to have them in (for him) feet to achieve less than (for him) Desires: To receive money and gifts from little minions, who can refuse?

Ms Anna – 29 years, 1.77m, shoe size 41, hazel eyes, 95d, as shown in her position at my feet – says no otherwise. This Domina started “Accidentally”in 2006, after a man called her in a chat asking her to“Insult over the phone in exchange for an urgent money order”.

“I understood the power he gave me.”

Then, he gave her his credit card number with a budget of €500 per month to spend. Total quality. “Obviously I started getting gifts. Then I understood the power that he gave me.” Since then she has slaves of money normal ones “led nose” which has “Energy”.

Enough to see the gifts added, some more elegant than others: “Once upon a time, someone lent me their villa for a vacation, with lockers full and a car with a driver. Heaven!” This activity “Exciting” It supports itself, but it also works: “I don’t want to create a passion for my work. Those are two different things.” However, we can say that at first glance, domination is a dream: do nothing, earn a lot of money anyway, cool! It’s actually a little more complicated than that.

Donating money is a way to maintain control.

Because even when we think we’re not giving, we always give less. Even when you think you’re the one in control, you’re not necessarily 100%. Sophie Cadalin, psychoanalyst and author of books on relationships between men and women, believes that the features of this practice are not. “not very clear”.

“under money bondage, there is a hierarchy that has been put forward from the beginning: there is dominant, dominant. But, at the same time, donating money is a way to maintain control, and under the guise of submission, for being an actor in the relationship. So there is still a basic attempt to seize power from these men when others agree, In a way, to be bought.”

For a psychoanalyst, there can be An attempt by men to reassure themselves… by having a peer, if only token: “The worry of many men is not being able to make a woman come. I think here too a game that allows us to make sure of that Make it cum well, with In a certain way. To put it frivolously, Not with sperm drenching it, but with dough. But, at least, she had fun! “ And to remember that The word “enjoy” is an accounting term: for example one enjoys money. The relationship between money and sex in psychoanalysis is very strong.”

The function of representing and sublimating sexual impulses

Magali Croset-Calisto, sexologist and author of a book Slavery – the erotic theory of ropes and attachments (La Musardine), says the same thing: The symbolism of money has always been interesting from an analytic standpoint, particularly in its function of representing and transcendent sexual impulses. in frame The money bondagemarket practice Commercial money is similar to the money we know in our daily lives, except that it is transferred to a BDSM framework that includes specific tokens.

The slaves of money will organize “Transfer” : “Sexuality is no longer produced in the genitals, but sensuality in an economic exchange imbued with consciousness-raising control and submission. Money abolishes and replaces sex. Money becomes phallic, in the psychoanalytic sense of the term.” She also thinks so“You have to be wary of appearances: who, master or slave, really controls the leads? Here we find a similar dynamic to other BDSM practices. The slave who gives to the master can decide at any time to stop his work and stop providing what is expected. In This, subject her to goodwill.

One must take charge of a part of the life of his ‘submissive’

Especially since their emotional involvement with the “pigeons”, in the opinion of the people involved, would in fact be substantial. So says Mrs. Anna, without her “lost”. Charlie F. , the popular CamGirl author of a highly-followed blog, offers similar testimonials from Dominas “Professional”: “The Money Mistress He owes his servant something: humiliation and domination. Domination requires real commitment. One has to take charge of a part of the life of his ‘submissive’.

Charlie states that he did receive proposals, but turned them down: “I have no desire to limit myself to Abdul Mal. It’s quick money, but not necessarily easy. Having said that, I’ve never met any real people, like speakers trying to get your address.

There will actually be many more “fakes” on the web than people who really match that profile. In the middle, they are called “fantasmores”: men who, if insulted and humiliated by letters, would believe they were about to donate … without doing so at all.

Which explains Sandra’s distrust when we called her: What proves that you are okay? A journalist, not a rapist, willing to do anything to get an answer from me? ” After passing a short exam, she finally found us “Al-Qaeda”. Thank you, Madam.

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